So frustrating, yet so common… You think you’re on a roll with this person and feelings start to develop.. then BAM! They (using “they” to make this simpler than “he or she”) start to text less or become less available. I won’t get into the reasons why people do this, but I will tell you what YOU can do about it.
- Mirror them – If they’re going to start becoming unavailable, then so should you. Do what they’re doing. They’re texting less? So should you. They’re busy on those nights that you’d usually spend together at your favorite local wine bar? You’re busy too.
- Get a hobby – The key is to keep busy, BUT you want to start a hobby or new activity as well. Not only does this show the person you have other things going on, but it’s attractive when someone is passionate about something, AND it will help keep your mind off that person as well.
- Do not communicate more! Don’t be a nag and tell yourself they didn’t get your last text. Being needy will only make you look bad. I’m going with that super cliché saying but, if it’s meant to be, they’ll come back, believe me. Otherwise you don’t want someone who doesn’t really want you anyway. That’s just torturous.
Never put all your eggs in one basket. Talk to more than one person at once until you’ve had the “commitment talk,” Otherwise you could be wasting precious time and are more susceptible to getting hurt. Keep busy and have other things going on in your life. You’re a hot commodity after all!
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