What Do I Do if the Person I’m Dating Starts Pulling Away?

So frustrating, yet so common… You think you’re on a roll with this person and feelings start to develop.. then BAM! They (using “they” to make this simpler than “he or she”) start to text less or become less available. I won’t get into the reasons why people do this, but I will tell you what YOU can do about it.

• Mirror them – If they’re going to start becoming unavailable, then so should you. Do what they’re doing. They’re texting less? So should you. They’re busy on those nights that you’d usually spend together at your favorite local wine bar? You’re busy too.

• Get a hobby – The key is to keep busy, BUT you want to start a hobby or new activity as well. Not only does this show the person you have other things going on, but it’s attractive when someone is passionate about something, AND it will help keep your mind off that person as well.

• Do not communicate more! Don’t be a nag and tell yourself they didn’t get your last text. Being needy will only make you look bad. I’m going with that super cliché saying but, if it’s meant to be, they’ll come back, believe me. Otherwise you don’t want someone who doesn’t really want you anyway. That’s just torturous.

Never put all your eggs in one basket. Talk to more than one person at once until you’ve had the “commitment talk,” Otherwise you could be wasting precious time and are more susceptible to getting hurt. Keep busy and have other things going on in your life. You’re a hot commodity after all!

Why Singles are Choosing Certain Events over the Bar Scene

We usually get pretty booked when a popular event is around the corner. Savvy clients know there are some major advantages to keeping an eye out on what’s happening in the social scene. I’ll get right to it. Here’s why you may want to consider going to an event rather than a bar or lounge:

• It’s less awkward than standing around in a bar. Usually events offer some type of activity or something in which you can participate. Even if it’s wine-wasting, you’re all in the same boat doing something, and it’s easier to meet people that way instead of just scoping out the scene at a bar. Having a good attitude and looking like you’re enjoying the activity is so much hotter too.

• Let’s face it – you can kill two birds with one stone when you go to a fundraiser or charity event. You can feel good about going, and you meet like-minded people. People there care about the cause, and being passionate about something is attractive. With fundraisers, you already have an easy subject to talk about since you have something in common! Head’s up – these tend to be a pricier than other events.

• You know there will be a lot of people there. The bar scene can be hit or miss. A lot of our clients do the “once around” to see if there’s anyone attractive, and if not, they just head out to the next bar. This is a total time-waster. When you go to an event, especially a ticketed one, people who already paid will have an obligation to go because they already put money into it. Also, you can see who’s going, and judge how many people are going, if the event is shared on Facebook.

It’s worth your time and effort to see if anything is coming up in your area. Event suggestions also come with your WingWoman order, so don’t stress if you’re not “in the know.” Contact us to try it out!

How to Make the Most of Your Time with a WingWoman

We’re in our busiest season! Whether you’re a first-time client or a seasoned pro at this, take note of these tips from the WingWomen themselves.

• Don’t expect a miracle. We can’t promise the venue will be “chock-full or people” you’re attracted to, or that you’ll get 3 phone numbers because you hired a WingWoman. Your chances of meeting someone are greatly increased with her help, but it takes a little patience and sometimes practice. Give it a chance to happen naturally with your new friend.

• Communicate exactly what you’d like the WingWoman to do and why you hired her. It’s smart to take the first 10 minutes or so to talk a little about yourself and what you’re looking to get out of this. Develop a working relationship with your WingWoman. Here’s the thing; every client is different. The more we know about you, the better it will be for us to talk you up and understand your style of things. Some clients want is to go up to men/women right away. Some would rather pick and choose. Some just want a boost of confidence. What are you comfortable with?

 

• Set a goal. We can’t stress this enough. You want to go home feeling like you got your money’s worth. At the beginning of the night, tell yourself to meet at least 2 people with the WingWoman. They don’t have to be perfect 10’s. The more you do this, the more comfortable you’ll get. Also, you never know who you’re going to meet! It’s a small victory knowing that you did what you set out to do.

 

• Be aware of other places nearby in case the chosen venue is a dud. The bar and lounge scene can be hit or miss, depending on the night, weather, if there’s an event going on and the place is closed to the general public, etc. It’s good to have a back-up plan for this reason. The good news is usually in cities there are places very close by, and you can just hop over to a whole new selection of people. Also, the WingWomen are very knowledgeable of the surrounding areas. Feel free to ask for a suggestion. They are socialites themselves!

 

• Ask the WingWoman for her honest opinion. It’s good to have the neutral opinion of someone who’s not your friend. Your friends and family might be sugar-coating their opinion because they think it’s going to hurt your feelings or they just say things to make you feel good. If you’re up for brutal honesty or knowing what you should work on, the WingWomen are here for you. Therefore, be open to suggestions. After all, what do you have to lose?

 

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