I get a lot of inspiration to write this blog from friends and clients, both male and female. This one is for all the ladies that go out and try to meet men, and are confused at why they are not getting attention, where other women are. The answer is: observation and work.
When you go out on the town with your friends, are you observing what other women are wearing? Are you observing what is in style right now, or more importantly, what is attracting men right now? If you aren’t doing this, you may as well hand the hot men over to the competition and go home. Ouch. I know. Sorry, but if you’re not paying attention to what a guy looks for when he goes out to meet women, then you doing yourself a disservice.
I recently went out for apps and drinks with a close, very attractive friend who I am constantly nagging to dress sexier, put makeup on, wear some heels, etc. Of course, as usual, she shows up to meet me at a swanky lounge wearing what looks like her mother’s black satin pajamas. It may be the Boho chic style to wear a baggy shirt that looks like a big garbage bag and doesn’t show your body at all, but it’s not flattering. On top of that, she was wearing little to no makeup to show off her beautiful eyes or amazing cheeks, and her hair was flat and dull.
It may seem like I’m insulting my friend, but I’m not. She was the one who was feeling insecure after the many men we were near weren’t paying attention to her at all. I could go on and on about this, but my point is that you have to think like a man, and men are visual as well all know! After a while, we went to the bathroom and made some quick fixes. She borrowed my lipstick and fluffed her hair up a little, and tucked her shirt in, so at least her hips, etc., could be seen. If only she had brought a spare pair of heels instead of flat walking boots, but alas, what we did work on got her more attention then before!
I hear it from other WingWomen all the time as well. We go out with our female clients, do the best that we can with introductions and coaching them, but ladies, you have to work for it too. It takes a lot of effort, but like anything in life, if you really want something, in this case, to meet men when you’re out, then you have to play the part. Your competition is working it, and so should you.