Hi everyone,
I just wanted to share something that we’ve been noticing over the years. As professional WingWomen, we work with clients who sometimes need us to push them out of their comfort zones. We are a neutral voice who will give them honest feedback. (Feedback that sometimes friends or family aren’t able to give). They can take the advice and do with it whatever they like though.
One scenario we frequently come across is when clients go for the same “type” of person time and time again. After dating or being in relationships with people who are the same type over and over again, you’re not doing yourself any good by going out and looking for that same look/personality/behavior with which you’re comfortable. We have had clients who only want us to help them meet Latin women, tall men, men with an accent (true story), only blondes, etc. The problem with this is that you’re closing yourself off to someone who could potentially be a perfect match for you, and you wouldn’t know it. Think of all the missed opportunities!
Robert Gary Lee said “Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.” The pain in this circumstance would be the breakups with the same type of people you’re into. One of the hardest things to do is self-reflect. Not only that, but realizing that what you’ve been doing isn’t working and needs to be some tweaking. When we’re out with clients, we try to make them “cast a wider net” and give other people a chance. Set a goal to meet at least one person who you wouldn’t normally approach. Have a good attitude about it. What’s the worst that can happen? It doesn’t work out, right? However, you can be proud that you stepped out your comfort zone and hopefully that will lead you to take even more chances with people who aren’t your “type.”
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