What Do I Do if the Person I’m Dating Starts Pulling Away?

So frustrating, yet so common… You think you’re on a roll with this person and feelings start to develop.. then BAM! They (using “they” to make this simpler than “he or she”) start to text less or become less available. I won’t get into the reasons why people do this, but I will tell you what YOU can do about it.

• Mirror them – If they’re going to start becoming unavailable, then so should you. Do what they’re doing. They’re texting less? So should you. They’re busy on those nights that you’d usually spend together at your favorite local wine bar? You’re busy too.

• Get a hobby – The key is to keep busy, BUT you want to start a hobby or new activity as well. Not only does this show the person you have other things going on, but it’s attractive when someone is passionate about something, AND it will help keep your mind off that person as well.

• Do not communicate more! Don’t be a nag and tell yourself they didn’t get your last text. Being needy will only make you look bad. I’m going with that super cliché saying but, if it’s meant to be, they’ll come back, believe me. Otherwise you don’t want someone who doesn’t really want you anyway. That’s just torturous.

Never put all your eggs in one basket. Talk to more than one person at once until you’ve had the “commitment talk,” Otherwise you could be wasting precious time and are more susceptible to getting hurt. Keep busy and have other things going on in your life. You’re a hot commodity after all!

Why Singles are Choosing Certain Events over the Bar Scene

We usually get pretty booked when a popular event is around the corner. Savvy clients know there are some major advantages to keeping an eye out on what’s happening in the social scene. I’ll get right to it. Here’s why you may want to consider going to an event rather than a bar or lounge:

• It’s less awkward than standing around in a bar. Usually events offer some type of activity or something in which you can participate. Even if it’s wine-wasting, you’re all in the same boat doing something, and it’s easier to meet people that way instead of just scoping out the scene at a bar. Having a good attitude and looking like you’re enjoying the activity is so much hotter too.

• Let’s face it – you can kill two birds with one stone when you go to a fundraiser or charity event. You can feel good about going, and you meet like-minded people. People there care about the cause, and being passionate about something is attractive. With fundraisers, you already have an easy subject to talk about since you have something in common! Head’s up – these tend to be a pricier than other events.

• You know there will be a lot of people there. The bar scene can be hit or miss. A lot of our clients do the “once around” to see if there’s anyone attractive, and if not, they just head out to the next bar. This is a total time-waster. When you go to an event, especially a ticketed one, people who already paid will have an obligation to go because they already put money into it. Also, you can see who’s going, and judge how many people are going, if the event is shared on Facebook.

It’s worth your time and effort to see if anything is coming up in your area. Event suggestions also come with your WingWoman order, so don’t stress if you’re not “in the know.” Contact us to try it out!