Stuck in an Online Dating Rut? Have You Tried This?

I’ve always said that any way you can meet someone, go for it. Whether it’s on Tinder, through a matchmaker, online dating, or in the grocery store; if you don’t try, you won’t succeed. I met my fiancé on Match.com after conquering the ins and outs of the online dating game. My clients have the same concerns and questions I first had, so I figured I’d share some of my top pointers!

Consider your online profile as something that is always growing and improving. I’m going to tell you what frustrates me most – A lot of people sign up on a dating site, start a profile, and just sit back and wait for someone to message them. You go back and edit your resume, add to it, and get a second opinion of a friend or colleague, right? Your online profile is something you have to continuously work on. Is your headline catching people’s eye? Could you add a new picture that makes you look better? Did you recently start a cool activity? This is an ACTIVE process that some people find is work. If it’s hard for you to break the ice and send a wink or better yet, a message to someone of interest, then set small goals, such as sending a message to 2 people per day. Check out who checked you out, and flirt back if you feel there is any potential at all.

Don’t have a laundry list of things about you in your bio. Same as the pictures, you don’t want to overexpose yourself and write everything. I’m sure you are a great person and you have lots to offer and your friends would say you’re a “total catch,” but short and sweet is the key. You can talk more about yourself on your first date.

Make sure to mention something unique about you. Can you make a mean chicken piccata? Have you traveled to 10 different countries? Do you know how to juggle? The goal here is to spark their interest and give them ammo to send you a message! The easier it is to write to you, the better.

Don’t lie. You’re only going to piss the person off if you lie about your age or height, or body type for that matter. People have types, and embrace the fact that you’re someone’s type.

Pics – You should have 4 or 5. No more and no less. Give them a good idea of what you are without overexposure. Make sure they’re all current of course, and make sure you have an activity/hobby shot of doing something like hiking, walking your dog, or playing an instrument to show you have fun things going on in your life. A full-length picture is necessary. If you’re like me, you hate it when you’re out with your friends and someone asks to stop and take a picture and you have to stop everything and pose. This is critical though. Try to get at least one picture when you’re out with friends. Bar/lounge lighting is super flattering, and you’re already lookin’ good. Seize the moment!

My #1 trick – Sign in as the opposite sex (or same sex if that’s what you prefer) and check out your competition. This is one of the best pieces of advice I can give you. By signing in and perusing the other people who are in your age range and location, etc., you’ll see what your potential mates are looking at! Now you can really set yourself apart from the rows and rows of the same thing. For example, I saw that there were so many girls who said “I love snow and skiing, etc.” I took this as a perfect way to set myself apart because I hate snow and winter sports, so I put that as one of the first statements in my bio. You can’t imagine how many messages I got saying I was a “breath of fresh air” because I was honest and said something that I didn’t like to do, rather than non-stop talk about everything that is positive. The point here is to stand out from the online crowd and market yourself differently from the competition.

Try to keep these pointers in mind when creating and maintaining your online profile. If you need more help, you can always hire me to set up a private online dating consultation and we can work on your specific needs.

WingWoman Stories and Brilliant Client Ideas

As professionals who meet up with strangers and help them achieve their dating goals, you can assume that we’ve got some stories to tell. We never know what the clients will be like in person until we meet them. Every now and then we’re asked to do some things that are out of the ordinary. Some WingWoman outings that we think will be ordinary turn out to be anything but. If our work is in a social atmosphere, the WingWomen meet and leave the client in public, and things are legit, we welcome the challenge! I thought I’d share some of the stories that we can look back at and laugh, high-five, and roll our eyes!

There have been clients who met and exchanged numbers with each other while they were out with a WingWoman. (Why not?) They both just happened to hire a WingWoman! We’ve had clients who have fallen in love with WingWomen (bound to happen at some point). We once had a client who hired a WingWoman for the duration of the time he travelled to London. There was a client who hired a WingWoman to do some investigating into whether or not a woman he liked was interested in him. I could go on and on. There’s never a dull moment, but we all know that going into it. Here are some more for your entertainment:
A couple of years ago we had a client who’s ex-girlfriend just broke up with him. He wanted to make her jealous and hire a WingWoman to do so. This seemed a little awkward, but we had an open mind. He told us that his ex-girlfriend was a yoga instructor and he wanted to hire a WingWoman to go to one of her yoga class with him. The WingWoman would need to be very fun and flirty with him, and in great shape, therefor making his ex raise an eyebrow and wonder “who’s this new girl?” or “he’s talking to someone new already?” We knew JUST the WingWoman to do this; Erica. It didn’t take her much time before she empathically said “a free yoga class and get paid to have fun? Sure I’ll do it!” Long story short, Erica met the client at the yoga class, they had a fun time and noticed the yoga instructor/ex was clearly wondering what was going on. After Erica left, the client’s ex pulled him aside and asked him who the girl was and after talking a bit, she told him she’d call him later. The client definitely pulled it off!
There was a repeat client last year who happened to be a financial advisor and wanted to acquire new clients for his business. He said that going out by himself and networking wasn’t really doing the trick. So, who better to hire than a professional networker? A WingWoman! As someone once pointed out, having another person talk you up is a lot more credible/believable than talking yourself up. He noticed that men were way more open to starting a conversation with a beautiful, intelligent woman than just another man in a suit. He would hire a smart WingWoman who would go to upscale events, bars, and steakhouses, and she would start conversations with men who could afford to go to these venues. She would then introduce the client and explain what he does. Well, our client did in fact acquire at least a few new clients that we are aware of. A lot more business cards were exchanged as well!
One time we got a call from a man in the flooring business who rented a booth at a large expo for contractors, builders, etc. He hired TWO WingWomen to bring attention to his booth, and start conversations with anyone walking by. The expo’s audience consisted of about 90% males, so you get the picture. The WingWomen took a quick crash-course in our client’s flooring business and how to talk to the prospective buyers. They were great at welcoming people to our client’s booth and being friendly, while giving them a brief explanation of the service. Our client was extremely impressed with the increase of traffic. He said the year before he had hired models but the WingWomen were way more social and interactive with the prospective buyers.
Here comes a story that I’m hesitant to tell because it did NOT look good for us! When the company was first starting out and the hiring process was different, I hired a girl who was very outgoing, fun, and knew how to win over any stranger. Her first time out was working for a repeat client who the other WingWomen said was great to work with. Well, long story short, she showed up to the venue drunk. The client noticed something was off but carried on and they went inside the lounge. She ended up causing a raucous and got herself kicked out! The poor client left right after, and got another free WingWoman outing after I apologized profusely. Needless to say she was never hired again!

Hope you enjoyed reading about some of the more interesting things that go on!            Like our Facebook page for more stories, tips, and other fun stuff!

What Not To Do When Hiring A WingWoman

I get a lot of questions about what we do, how we do it, and of course the ever popular “what if” questions. There are some terms and conditions, but mostly, it’s a very casual process. We’re often called “insta-friends,” personal cheerleaders, or confidence-boosters who will do a LOT to help you meet your partner. However, we don’t really talk about what not to do when you’re out with the WingWomen. So, as the “Wing Commander,” I figured I’d point out a few of the “don’ts.”

Please don’t: 

1)  Pick her up – As safety is of utmost importance to our company, the clients and WingWomen always meet and leave in public. If you’d rather meet the WingWomen prior to going to your requested venue, feel free to meet across the street in a public place, get the meet-and-greet over with, and then walk over to your destination. This seems to work for a lot of first-time clients, and streamlines the whole meeting process.

2)  Request a specific-looking WingWoman – Your WingWoman is not your date, so it doesn’t matter if she has a C-cup or is a size 2. She is there to help you meet other women (or men). We do, however, take into consideration certain requests, such as a taller or shorter WingWoman, as we have clients who feel sensitive about a height difference. For male clients, we match WingWomen with clients based on the age range and type of woman they are looking to meet. This way, it is easier for the WingWoman to go up to women who are like her, and make it easier for the client in the long run. For female clients, we match the client with a WingWoman of the same age, so they appear to be friends just having a night out.

3)  Move quickly from place to place – One of the worst things you can do when you’re out trying to meet someone is go quickly from bar to bar. We sometimes get clients who like to walk into a bar or lounge, make a circumference around the place, and then say “let’s go.” Relax, stay at least a half hour, give the crowd a chance, and have fun. There are people that come and go, and if you leave before giving it a chance, you could miss an amazing catch who was your type. When you are relaxed and enjoying yourself, you look your best anyway! Take this opportunity to talk to your WingWoman about what you’re looking for, and even do some role-playing so you can practice making good conversation when you do see someone great!

4)  Assume she knows what you’d like her to do – The best advice I give to the WingWomen is to communicate and always ask the client what he or she is looking for. Some clients want the WingWomen to go up to random people and just start talking and breaking the ice. Other clients would rather wait until s/he sees someone they’re attracted to, and then talk about how they’ll go up to him or her, together or alone. Every client has different wants and needs, and we are here to help, but you need to tell us how we can best do our job for you. Help us help you type of thing 😉

On behalf of the WingWomen and myself, I hope this helps clear things up. If not, we are used to getting lots of questions, so never hesitate to call or email!

My #1 Dating Tip – Save Time, Money, and Energy while Reeling them In!

This may seem shallow, but it’s for everyone’s benefit.

When I was single, I used to joke with my friends that dating was a part-time job. If you don’t put a ton of effort into it, you won’t get anything out of it. Knowing this, I found that being organized helped a lot. On my phone I’d have guys’ names from Match.com or those I had met in person, and I’d put something that reminded me of them next to their names.

For example, my contacts list would look like this:

Tom – North End
Justin – tall, funny
Mike – gym rat
Mike C – talker, cute

You get the point.

Sorry, but my memory isn’t that great and I needed something to remember who was calling or texting me at the time. After talking to a few other singles, I found out that I wasn’t the only one who was doing that. I’ve also heard of men and women making spreadsheets or just plain old lists to keep track.

After a while, like anyone out there trying to meet someone for a real relationship, I got tired and frustrated. I was sick of wasting time getting all dolled up, spending money on taxis, and wasting good makeup going to dinner or having drinks with someone I wasn’t really into in the end. I would look back after ending the date or the fling and think “there has to be an easier way to do this.”

Here’s what I did. And it works for guys too! Instead of putting all my time and energy into one date per night, I thought why not go on two… or if I wanted to be really advanced… three.

What am I talking about? Was I being a player? No. I just know that I can tell if I’m going to like someone within the first half hour or so of meeting him. Therefore, I’d go on “mini-dates” and explain to these men that I was “meeting up with friends after” and could only stay for one drink with them. I would of course let my date know this beforehand. No one seemed to have a problem with that. In fact, I think my dates respected the efficiency of it all! After all, they don’t want to be stuck with me if they weren’t into me either. After leaving that date, I’d hop on over to the next. By doing this I saved time, let myself go of any weirdness or awkwardness on a dinner-date that has gone awry, and didn’t have do get dolled up, hair done, makeup on, stress about an outfit, every single time I went out to meet someone. I just scheduled 2 or 3 dates in a row on the same night.

What’s the best part of it all? I left them wanting more. Yes, leave your date wanting to see you again, and you will have the upper hand. Also, if you have places to go to and people to see, you appear to be an in-demand, social, outgoing person. After meeting like this, my dates were motivated to fit into my schedule! Don’t get me wrong, this may work better for women, as men like the chase. You also can’t come across as though something else is more important than your date. As long as you’re up front about it BEFORE you meet, it is perfectly acceptable. If there is a second date, that date should be completely different of course, and you should devote more time to getting to know the person.

Go ahead and try this technique next time you’re talking to a couple of people online and they’re interested in meeting you. I promise it will be an amazing tool to get you through this crazy world of dating!

4 Reasons why You Should Hire an Image Consultant Now

Maybe you’re not getting as many compliments as you used to. Maybe your online dating profile isn’t getting any “winks.” Or maybe you just find yourself questioning whether or not you “look OK in this?” More people ask for professional help in the looks department than you realize. Whether to boost self-esteem, look more professional in your career, or be a magnet to the opposite sex, here are some reasons why hiring an image consultant is one of the best investments you could make.

1) You’re used to your friends saying what you want to hear and always complimenting you. However, do they really know what looks best on you? Are they just saying nice things to avoid an awkward situation if you don’t agree? A professional Image Consultant will give you an unbiased, honest opinion. You aren’t going to hang out afterwards, so you know he or she will be giving you the truth. Unlike your co-workers’ advice, or your friend’s thoughts when you come out of a dressing room, there is a whole new world to styling someone and giving them the facts on what works for your body type.

2) You’re getting no traffic to your online dating profile. Let’s face it; your pictures are the anchor of your profile. You could be innocently putting up pictures that don’t have good lighting, don’t show you at your best angle, or badly need to be updated. Here’s when savvy clients kill two birds with one stone. Have your image consultant take pictures of you looking dapper while you’re out discovering what will flatter you most. Do you know what your best color is? Use what you’ll learn and take advantage of that in your pictures. An image consultant can critique your pose, the way your clothes will look, and capture the moment when you’re looking amazing! Hello new #1 picture on Match!

3) An image consultant comes with experience and knows what’s worked with prior clients. If you’re looking for results, then why not hire someone who has a track record of clients full of them? It’s the best feeling hearing from clients who aced a job interview because they felt that much more confident in their appearance. There are also clients who, after they’ve learned what to wear out on the town, (and what not to wear), tell us the consulting session has “changed their social life.” The proof that it’s a great investment is in the feedback from his or her clients. Ask for referrals or check out testimonials, and make an informed decision.

4) You’re used to your ways. You may not even be aware that what you’re wearing is very last-decade. I understand that some people are very comfortable with what they’ve been wearing in the past decade or two, and it’s hard for them to accept a change in their wardrobe. Instead of making a complete 180-degree change, try adding a few pieces that are in with the current trends, and mix and match those with what you’re used to. The fact of the matter is, “flattering” is what’s in style, and designers are always coming up with new ways to make clothes fit you best. You could be missing out on a newer style that would make you feel incredible!

It doesn’t hurt to get a second opinion, and some people need it more than others. Whether you’re a runway model or a computer geek, you’ll learn something about how to present yourself in the best way. We all know, presentation IS everything!

New York City – Online Dating Capital of the World?

I recently heard that New York City is the “capital of online dating.” This really surprised me. New York City? It’s the “city that never sleeps!” You’d think that with a multitude of resources, things to do, places to go to, and amazing energy, a place like this would accommodate anyone wanting to meet someone. Not to mention there are so many people living in a compacted area, it’s almost impossible not to be forced to talk to someone new. We’re talking about the biggest city in the U.S., with so many different types of people and their diverse backgrounds. A single’s dating dream, right? Unfortunately, the opposite effect may have occurred.

On the other hand, one would think that a more rural area with not too many places to meet people and go out and socialize would capitalize more on the internet. You can meet people right on your computer screen instead of traveling far to get to a bar or lounge. Also, there are less people in suburban or rural areas, so it would be a no-brainer to find more of a “selection” online and right at your fingertips!

Here are a couple of reasons why NYC could be the capital of online dating:

1) Just going out to try meeting someone in this city can be pricey. There are drinks, cab rides, ticket prices, etc. Online dating cuts your expenses dramatically. You can stay in the comfort of your home and break the ice with someone, flirt, and make plans to meet all while wearing your comfy clothes and sipping coffee on the couch.

2) Because there are so many people, it actually works against you because it is so intimidating, especially to someone new to the city. NYC can be a huge, overwhelming place to someone who doesn’t really have any friends. Maybe he or she is here because of a job transfer or for school. Instead of being “thrown to the sharks” with everyone who already has their circle of friends, it’s much easier to make an online profile and explain “I’m new in town.”

There is still hope for meeting someone in person in The Big Apple though. Online dating should be used as an extra tool on the side. There is nothing wrong with using many resources in the 2014 dating world! You can always join a Meetup Group of your choice. These are great because people are LOOKING to meet someone like them, and you know that when going to the group outing, you already have something in common! Another thing I’m going to recommend (of course) is hiring a WingWoman, who will make it extremely easy to meet people while you’re out with her. After all, she is there to take the stress out of approaching people for you.

Hopefully these city-goers aren’t using online dating as the only way to meet people. To each his or her own, but there is nothing like that feeling you get when you’re out and you meet someone who gives you butterflies at the first “hello.”

A Few Minutes, a Few Questions with our New Image Consultant Margarita!

What’s hot right now? Any tips?  Denim conquered world’s podiums this summer again and is in demand in any variation – as in accessories and in evening dresses. The play of written words embroidered or printed across ready-to-wear, crop tops are easily being the most ubiquitous trend to translate from the runways to the streets and back again.

I’d say couple of words about shoes:  Designers in this season offer an excellent alternative to boring ballerinas, sandals and flat shoes: the block heel shoes. This summer is all about the sport sandal, albeit in bright colors or covered in gems.

You’ve also been a WingWoman for a while now. What are some fashion mistakes men make when they are out meeting women?  A common mistake is believing that tight clothes will suck everything in or wearing clothes that are too small. The deep “V” is also a mistake. No one wants to see the gaping expanse of your newly waxed chest. Unless you’re under 13 years of age….and even then – do not show off a designer labeled t-shirt! The most heinous of all style crimes is having frayed jeans. Invest in properly tailored pieces that will make the best of your assets.

What do you suggest women wear for makeup for a fresh look?  Any pastel color eye shadows are at the peak of fashion right now: sky blue, light pink, smoky, violet – the selection is really wide. Bust out your black liquid liner, because perennially chic cat-eyes are especially big for end of Summer/Fall. TIt seemed like orange is the lipstick shade of the season, especially going into end of Summer, with no shortage of designers opting for various hues in this color family.

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7 Reasons Why You Didn’t get any Digits This Weekend

Did you go out this past weekend and come home without any numbers? Maybe you met a couple of potential dates, but didn’t seem to get their number saved into your phone, or at least ask for a business card? If you’re in the market to meet someone and you don’t capitalize on a good, social environment that’s perfect for meeting people, you’re not going to be getting any dates. Here are some reasons why you could be hurting your chances at getting those digits when you’re out on the town.

1) You were trying too hard. I know this sounds counter-productive, but it’s a major turnoff when you’re seen leaning against the wall, just scoping out the scene and not having fun in the process. The last thing people are attracted to is someone who seems desperate to get a number by the end of the night. You tend to look creepy when you’re with your friend and neither one of you are talking, but just staring at the “options.” Also, when you do meet someone, don’t ask for his/her number right away either. Make sure the conversation is flowing and you have something to talk about when you do end up getting those digits.

2) You’re not trying at all. Women do this more frequently than men. You go out with your girlfriends, and get “caught up in catching up.” After a drink or two, it’s like you’re the only ones in the room, forgetting about other potential guys who are perfectly ready and wanting to meet you. You also look more intimidating to men when you’re in a deep conversation with your friend(s). How can they jump in and start talking to you? This is extremely hard, as you’re making an invisible conversation barrier. Try to find a mix between catching up with your girlfriends, and also looking around once in a while. Keep the conversation light, and ask the guy next to you for his opinion. Remember, you’re out to be social and meet other people.

3) You went up to her while she was in the middle of a deep conversation with her friend. This one is awful. Whatever you say is not going to mean anything, because you interrupted her at the worst time, and she didn’t appreciate it. It will be an impossible uphill battle to get out of this one because at that time there was no intention, in fact attention was unwanted, while they are bonding over something important. The only way to avoid this is by understanding body language. Try to see if there are looking that much more intense, talking closer, and being more serious. If you’re really into the person, you can try to wait it out until it becomes a little easier to approach, or move on.

4) You’re dressing for other girls, not guys. Ladies – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, guys don’t care who designed your handbag or that you’re wearing the latest puffy skirt. Guys want to see what you’re working with. Sorry, but it’s true. They’re visual beings. So please remember to wear what flatters you best, and what gives you the most confidence, and don’t worry about the trends. Pay attention to what other girls are wearing only if they’re attracting the guys you’re into. Are they wearing flats or high heels? Puffy skirts and baggy tops? Or form-fitting skirts and fun, flirty tops… Just trying to help with what will get the results!

5) Your head was in your cell phone. If your head is in your cell phone, you’re not going to be approachable. In fact, you will be the opposite. You look like you’re waiting for your significant other to come meet you (aka repelling the opposite sex). If you’re alone at a bar/lounge and you feel like you need to be preoccupied because you’re not comfortable being by yourself, bring a magazine. With a magazine, you can put it down on the bar and leave it open while you flip the pages. You’re even inviting conversation because other people can see the pictures and it is easy to comment and start a conversation. If you need to check your cell, fine, but please, please, do not be texting and looking at your phone the whole time!

6) You’re too cool for school. Our clients tend to meet more people at less “uppity,” or “snobby” lounges. People feel they’re intimidating and non-welcoming. If you came into the place with an attitude of being better than the next person, don’t expect to be approached. Being approachable makes it that much easier for people to go up to you and strike a conversation. Isn’t that why you went out in the first place.. to be social and meet people?

7) You didn’t seal the deal; meaning – even after hitting it off and having a great conversation, you didn’t ask for the phone number. This is the second most popular reason why men, especially, hire the WingWomen. It’s hard enough to strike up a conversation with someone you’re attracted to, but then you have to get the guts to ask for their contact info. We’ve had some clients ask the WingWoman to put in a good word for them while they “step away” or “go to the bathroom.” The WingWoman may suggest to the prospective partner that she meet up with the client another time because he’s a great catch. The simplest advice I can give you is to relay back to something you talked about; something you had in common. Did you talk about the fact that you both love outdoor concerts? Enjoy green tea in the afternoon? Go to the North End for pastry? Well, bring it up again, and suggest that you should do it together some day! Don’t make the huge mistake of going home without getting the digits of someone you really connected with.

We Asked, Image Consultant Shannon Answered

What are some good outfits/clothing articles for men and women to wear on a first date?

A good article of clothing to wear on a first date is something that tells a story about you… Maybe a scarf, a wristwatch, a pendant… that has a special meaning for you. Maybe you picked it up when on a fun trip, or got it from a dear friend or family member. These items can be great conversation starters.

 

What‘s hot right now? Any tips?

You want to make a great first impression on a first date… but it’s not advisable to show up looking too trendy, and risk looking like you are materialistic (unless that is what you are trying to attract in a partner 😉 What’s always “hot” is to dress in a sophisticated, classic style. (and remember to wear comfortable shoes! You do not want to be hobbling around in pain 😉

What is the best thing for women to wear to make her feel good about herself?

It is important for women to dress in a manner that reflects their intentions. So unless you’re looking for a quick hook up… you want to look attractive, but not too sexy on the first date. (So save your strapless dress and 4 inch heels for later down the road). Wear something that will make you feel feminine, yet comfortable.)

 

What should men pay attention to when dressing for going out on the town?

Foremost, be true to yourself, and your own style. But if you are unsure, just stick to the basics– a pair of slacks. A button down shirt, with a fitted V-neck T-shirt (that is not too tight 😉 underneath. Oh, and a great pair of comfortable shoes! (Word of caution: Boston has many places that have a dress code, and do not allow sneakers or jeans — so be prepared.)

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How’s That Workin’ Out for You?

This is for those who stick to the same routine and expect love to fall into their laps…

Ok, ok – I know you are sick of New Year’s motivational lingo, but this is a perfect time for me to stress something that I tell both clients and friends.  Basically, if what you’re doing right now isn’t working, you have the opportunity to start fresh and make a change for something to happen in 2014. If you really think about it, finding someone special is within your reach, but it won’t happen easily. Sure, sometimes it’s luck for those very few people, but for the rest of us, it takes time and understanding the concept of what your potential mate wants. That’s right, if you see what attracts the person who you are attracted to, then you can use that to your advantage. Use these tools to better yourself and make yourself “more dateable” to your target audience.   

Be observant. Years ago, when I was dating, I spent a lot of time checking out what other women were wearing (the girls who were getting all the attention from guys I was attracted to). They were wearing heels, I wasn’t. They were wearing clothes that flatter their figure, while I was wearing clothes that were trendy and stylish, but may not have necessarily been anything a guy was interested in. I was dressing for my friends, since they cared more about style. I was also interested in certain expensive handbags. However, I came to find out that a simple, small clutch from a thrift store was just as perfect and complimented my flirty, flattering outfit! The women that guys were approaching at bars were smiling and outgoing, and not intimidating. The right flattering look and outgoing attitude is everything.

The men and women you’re attracted to – who are THEY attracted to? Who is your “competition?” Check it out for yourself. Google images of women and men  at nice bars or lounges and what they’re wearing and if they seem like they’re having fun or if they’re just standing around with their drink, waiting for someone to come up to them. (Not attractive). Or next time you’re out, see who is getting the most attention. This is what clients ask me to help them with, whether it is for their online profile or just to go to an event. Observe! This will help you get your end goal!

Heal yourself. Of course, you also have to be happy with yourself first! You’ve heard it a million times, but you have to be happy with your looks and your inner beauty. People can smell someone who is not confident, and it’s not attractive. Research has linked almost any type of exercise to greater body confidence. Would you be attracted to a guy or girl who is not healthy or keeping up appearances?

You may be a happy person, but out of shape, or you may be perfectly in shape, but not happy on the inside because of an unresolved issue. Don’t allow yourself to be hurt by someone who will treat you badly because you are treating yourself badly. You know what to do; get help/get a hobby/get a workout buddy if you need it. I can’t stress enough how much it is projected to others when you’re happy with you. Then, after you are confident and radiant from inside and out, you will be ready to bring someone who is also healthy, into your life.

If you’re consistently not meeting people, then something has to change. Try the above-mentioned tips before complaining about never getting approached or not finding love. They call for a good amount of effort, but like anything that you want in life, it will be worth it in the end!