How to Make the Most of Your Time with a WingWoman

We’re in our busiest season! Whether you’re a first-time client or a seasoned pro at this, take note of these tips from the WingWomen themselves.

• Don’t expect a miracle. We can’t promise the venue will be “chock-full or people” you’re attracted to, or that you’ll get 3 phone numbers because you hired a WingWoman. Your chances of meeting someone are greatly increased with her help, but it takes a little patience and sometimes practice. Give it a chance to happen naturally with your new friend.

• Communicate exactly what you’d like the WingWoman to do and why you hired her. It’s smart to take the first 10 minutes or so to talk a little about yourself and what you’re looking to get out of this. Develop a working relationship with your WingWoman. Here’s the thing; every client is different. The more we know about you, the better it will be for us to talk you up and understand your style of things. Some clients want is to go up to men/women right away. Some would rather pick and choose. Some just want a boost of confidence. What are you comfortable with?

 

• Set a goal. We can’t stress this enough. You want to go home feeling like you got your money’s worth. At the beginning of the night, tell yourself to meet at least 2 people with the WingWoman. They don’t have to be perfect 10’s. The more you do this, the more comfortable you’ll get. Also, you never know who you’re going to meet! It’s a small victory knowing that you did what you set out to do.

 

• Be aware of other places nearby in case the chosen venue is a dud. The bar and lounge scene can be hit or miss, depending on the night, weather, if there’s an event going on and the place is closed to the general public, etc. It’s good to have a back-up plan for this reason. The good news is usually in cities there are places very close by, and you can just hop over to a whole new selection of people. Also, the WingWomen are very knowledgeable of the surrounding areas. Feel free to ask for a suggestion. They are socialites themselves!

 

• Ask the WingWoman for her honest opinion. It’s good to have the neutral opinion of someone who’s not your friend. Your friends and family might be sugar-coating their opinion because they think it’s going to hurt your feelings or they just say things to make you feel good. If you’re up for brutal honesty or knowing what you should work on, the WingWomen are here for you. Therefore, be open to suggestions. After all, what do you have to lose?

 

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Stuck in an Online Dating Rut? Have You Tried This?

I’ve always said that any way you can meet someone, go for it. Whether it’s on Tinder, through a matchmaker, online dating, or in the grocery store; if you don’t try, you won’t succeed. I met my fiancé on Match.com after conquering the ins and outs of the online dating game. My clients have the same concerns and questions I first had, so I figured I’d share some of my top pointers!

Consider your online profile as something that is always growing and improving. I’m going to tell you what frustrates me most – A lot of people sign up on a dating site, start a profile, and just sit back and wait for someone to message them. You go back and edit your resume, add to it, and get a second opinion of a friend or colleague, right? Your online profile is something you have to continuously work on. Is your headline catching people’s eye? Could you add a new picture that makes you look better? Did you recently start a cool activity? This is an ACTIVE process that some people find is work. If it’s hard for you to break the ice and send a wink or better yet, a message to someone of interest, then set small goals, such as sending a message to 2 people per day. Check out who checked you out, and flirt back if you feel there is any potential at all.

Don’t have a laundry list of things about you in your bio. Same as the pictures, you don’t want to overexpose yourself and write everything. I’m sure you are a great person and you have lots to offer and your friends would say you’re a “total catch,” but short and sweet is the key. You can talk more about yourself on your first date.

Make sure to mention something unique about you. Can you make a mean chicken piccata? Have you traveled to 10 different countries? Do you know how to juggle? The goal here is to spark their interest and give them ammo to send you a message! The easier it is to write to you, the better.

Don’t lie. You’re only going to piss the person off if you lie about your age or height, or body type for that matter. People have types, and embrace the fact that you’re someone’s type.

Pics – You should have 4 or 5. No more and no less. Give them a good idea of what you are without overexposure. Make sure they’re all current of course, and make sure you have an activity/hobby shot of doing something like hiking, walking your dog, or playing an instrument to show you have fun things going on in your life. A full-length picture is necessary. If you’re like me, you hate it when you’re out with your friends and someone asks to stop and take a picture and you have to stop everything and pose. This is critical though. Try to get at least one picture when you’re out with friends. Bar/lounge lighting is super flattering, and you’re already lookin’ good. Seize the moment!

My #1 trick – Sign in as the opposite sex (or same sex if that’s what you prefer) and check out your competition. This is one of the best pieces of advice I can give you. By signing in and perusing the other people who are in your age range and location, etc., you’ll see what your potential mates are looking at! Now you can really set yourself apart from the rows and rows of the same thing. For example, I saw that there were so many girls who said “I love snow and skiing, etc.” I took this as a perfect way to set myself apart because I hate snow and winter sports, so I put that as one of the first statements in my bio. You can’t imagine how many messages I got saying I was a “breath of fresh air” because I was honest and said something that I didn’t like to do, rather than non-stop talk about everything that is positive. The point here is to stand out from the online crowd and market yourself differently from the competition.

Try to keep these pointers in mind when creating and maintaining your online profile. If you need more help, you can always hire me to set up a private online dating consultation and we can work on your specific needs.